Billions of people should be able to release their hold upon many of their false beliefs once the following idea is understood, and put into practice. First a little background leading up to this particular idea will be told.

What you will read here has never been explained before by anyone else that I am aware of, and yet it is so simple I have wondered: why not? Those adults to whom I have explained this simple idea have changed their life afterwards, like turning on a switch to turn on a light, so I know it works as easily for them as it did for me.

Since my birth until about 27 years later, up until this idea came to me, I had been lead to believe that true happiness came from being with another human being, such as in marriage, or finding a partner that you might believe someday you would marry. Until then I believed that having friends was a necessary part of happiness. I believed firmly in this prevalent mind set idea, that is global in its illusion, which is lived by all the others around me, who taught this false idea mostly by their example.

I have had friends all through my life, but being of a military background that meant I made friends, only to have to leave them behind time, and time again as my career military father, and his family moved from one Army station to another. I got to the point where I felt it was better not to have any friends, as it hurt so much to lose them. I began to distance myself from contact, but not in a rude way, only not to get involved. Still I did look about me, and if I sensed there was someone who seemed intuitively a friend, then I would soon have a friend. Once I grew older, then I could maintain my friendship with those who I left behind as I had a car, a phone, and was independent enough so I could visit them even if they were hundreds of miles away.

I tried to keep contact with my friends when I was younger, when I was about eleven years old, after my dad moved to another Army Post, but I learned later that my mother threw the post card away that I gave her to mail to a person who came over to visit me. He also had me over at his parent's home for lunch, and dinner. I was his only friend that he had found in a long time, so his parents told me. He too had a military career dad. (Us kids of theirs are known as “lifer brats.”) It was obvious that my friend would write me back, and I was heart broken when he never responded. Years later when this situation did not mean anything more to me, I learned from my mom that she believed that my friend would never write back anyway, and that she had thrown my post card away for that reason. In case anyone is thinking that my mom lied to cover up my disappointment, so she would be a selfless mother, I know that it is the other way around. My mom had done the same thing on other events, and since this was years later, I am sure she felt it was then safe to tell the truth about one more of her previous lies. She likely thought it would make her look loving, like she cared for me when in reality she wished me not to leave the nest, and just as much she did not enjoy helping to entertain another’s friends.

The reason for telling my story above is that I had every reason to ponder deeper on this age old illusion of friendship, and happiness.

Now soon begins what lead to my discovery on happiness. Prior to this idea explained next I was also involved in meditation, and so I had some experiences that were not of the usual earthly feelings associated with this material plane of existence. I began to realize that there is a friendship that can be directly felt from an inner communion with the God within achieved by deep meditation. However, we can not live our lives sitting in meditation, we must come out and take part in the world play. SO here came the problem we will see I faced, and the solution that I came to, to clear the illusion away.

I was out walking about feeling euphoric from my meditation of only a few hours ago. I was also in a beautiful park, with a small river slowly flowing nearby. It was summer, and the air was fresh, and the sky clear light blue. It was about midday. The park was in a slightly elevated area with mountains around, so that it was not hot, neither was it cold, but it was a balmy day. Flowers were blooming, and there was no sound of anything except an occasional few birds talking to one another. I felt like I was in heaven, for I also felt happy, carefree, and delighted with life. For about half an hour, or longer I walked about all alone in this beautiful scene. Then off at a not too distant place I saw a couple, a handsome man, and his attractive lady walking hand in hand over a wooden bridge that crossed the small river that lead to where I was walking. They both looked as happy as I had felt when I was by myself all alone. Once I saw the two I realized that I had no one to share this beautiful experience with, and that each of them had found a person with which to be happy. My own previous happiness now turned to sadness. Then I started to think that if I had been happy before I saw these two, and in fact I was happier previously than I had been in my entire life, even when with my fiancée, who I had broken up with over a year ago, then I had fooled myself into thinking happiness comes only with another by your side, or with friends.

I had let an external belief that the world holds on to, to destroy my life. It was so simple once I saw the connection on how to break that connection of a false belief so that I could return to my earlier blissful state of being. Once I saw the foolish thing I did, I then instantly returned to the previous state I had enjoyed before I saw the couple appear. If they had not appeared then all day, and into the evening I would be happy. So like turning on a switch to turn on a light, I merely saw how I had been fooled. From that time on I was as happy as I was in the park, and all alone. Even if I were to be the only person in the world that was not married (I visualized that idea) I was able to realize that even under that extreme, that still I would be very happy. I was happier on the inside than those who only looked happy on the outside simply because they believed the lie that by holding hands or having a friend one was now complete.